Small Changes Lead to Big Impact…

All of us want to make positive changes in our lives. We plan to inculcate various positive habits in our lifestyle such as walking 3-4 miles per day, hitting gym for 1 hour, eating healthy food throughout the day, spending less money on all the irrelevant expenditures etc. and we try really hard to succeed in this. But unfortunately we are not able to carry this routine for a longer duration of time and just end up doing for a couple of days. So what’s the best way to succeed in our plans so that we can make these activities a part of our day to day life.

First of all, we should find a very solid quantifiable reason why we want to do this activity in our life such as loosing 10kg weight, saving 1 million dollars or starting your own business within 2-3 years. In addition, this motivating factor should align with our principles.

Secondly, we need to take micro steps initially to convert them into big leap. Once we take a small step and keep adding into that we cover a big distance. For example, if we want to make good eating habits we can target to focus on our diet for next 7 days and may be one meal at a time and then slowly and gradually we can increase to follow the diet pattern for all the meals and for a longer duration. In this way, we can reduce desired weight and get fit within a stipulated time period which looked impossible earlier.

Similarly, we can build several positive habits and remove unconstructive negative habits from our life by taking baby steps which transform our overall perspective towards life and put a huge positive impact on our health, wealth and happiness.

Finding Purpose of Life

Have you ever wondered – most of our goals are just like mirage. Mirage in Science means visibility of a sheet of water in desert due to refraction of light, and philosophically an unrealistic hope that can never be achieved.

Once a thirsty dear was running in a hot desert in the hope of some water and whenever he used to see a sheet of water due to mirage he got hopeful and ran faster. Somewhere thousand of miles away a human being worked really hard and worked harder once he saw some additional gain and hope of further growth.

Just like deer man was very confident that he was moving in right direction to achieve his goal. He worked really hard and within few years he bought his dream car. Then he saw people around him having charter planes and he realised he wanted to have one. Some years later he became CEO of a company and bought a charter plane. But now he thinks he needs a bigger charter plane to accommodate more people and his goal kept changing just like the sheet of water. In this way was he ever be able to achieve his goal. Perhaps not? So where is the fault instead of doing such a hard work man is not able to achieve his goal.

Actually the fault is not in doing hard work but in setting our goals. We make goals to get rich, to buy big house & car etc. which keeps changing and shifting as we achieve one. We need to find the larger goal of our life i.e. purpose of our life which lies somewhere deep in our heart & soul. A BIG cause through which we can bring change in our life and all the other lives we touch on day to day basis. For example: the goal of Steve Jobs was not to earn lots of money instead he wanted to bring change in life of every human by making it more convenient through smart phone technology. Although it has made our life highly inconvenient but credit goes to us for screwing that 😊. The goal of Elon Musk is not only to create a big aeronautics company but to create an alternative place for humans to live in case of catastrophic end of Earth.

Normally we mis -understand our short term goals as our life time goals and in end we feel only momentary happiness even after achieving our those goals. And we never come to know what we actually wanted to achieve in life.

A man’s ultimate goal can never be self-focused and without bigger purpose. When we find a reason why he want to achieve that goal and how it is going to bring a change in broader perspective it becomes a true goal.

In the end, I would like to close with a quote from Helen Keller “True Happiness is not attained through self gratification but through fidelity to a worthy purpose”.

The Success Mantra to Achieve your Target…

We all have our own way of achieving our targets in Life. Here is the success mantra…https://youtu.be/i5j76dVWjSE?SUB_CONFIRMATION=1

Taking full responsibility of our life extremely important to be successful !!

Be Responsible for Your Life !!
— Read on youtu.be/JyY1ilozwu0

Declutter your mind for a Healthy and Happy Life…

In the current era of Big Data most of the time we are surrounded with humongous amount of information. Some of this information is highly critical for us but most of the data is completely waste and is not relevant for us. And unfortunately, we are completely unaware of the fact that the irrelevant content in which we are investing our time may influence us negatively.

According to a recent research, each person spend on average 5-6 hours each day in watching news, videos on TV & mobile and spending significant time on social media platforms such as Facebook, Instagram etc. Going through immaterial content generates anonymous negativity in our brain and keep accumulating in our subconscious mind in the form of unpleasant feelings such as fear, sorrow, jealousy and restlessness.

 

 

This is an era where we should be very careful in choosing what we want to read, listen and watch. We also need to be highly conscious about the kind of content around which we spend our time. Today, we have easy accessibility to huge variety of news, web content etc. which may also put a big impact on our mind. According to various studies, slowly and gradually we start thinking and processing the similar kind of thoughts which surround us. These thoughts start influencing our decision making process and ultimately start impacting our social and professional life. Someone has very rightly said that “we become what we read and watch”.

 

 

Hence, it is extremely important to understand what kind of content or information is good for our mind and health. We can declutter our mind by ignoring extraneous data and concentrating only on relevant information.

Being Present…

Human mind fickles very frequently. Most of the times our mind is dwelled in thinking either about the past or future. Sometimes the power of thinking is so dominant that even if we want to get out of it we are not able to do so. This is a situation when we feel that we and our mind are two different entities where we want something else and our mind something else.

This unnecessary thinking is the biggest cause of our sufferings. We suffer when we become slave of our mind. And the best way to get out of this suffering is being present. This is a state when we are in the present moment, our mind is in our control and we don’t think about anything. In this situation we enjoy the very present moment and keep all the negative thoughts away.

A very good way of being present is keep asking yourself what’s going in your mind right now. It helps in keeping check of thoughts crossing through our mind.

The Burning Desire…

We all have certain desires in our life and we try to achieve them in our own way. Some of us are able to get the desired success while others not. All the successful people have achieved success in life when they made their desire to be a Burning Desire.

A desire becomes burning desire when we think about it all the time and we don’t want anything else except of that. For Example – the desire of getting breathe (air) for a drowning person. In words of Warren Buffett if you want it bad enough, you will work hard enough to get it.

Let’s see how to make a desire into burning desire. According to various researches most of the time a human is governed by its subconscious mind. So to make our desire a burning desire we need to feed in our subconscious mind with what we want to achieve in our life. Consciously, we need to think and visualise about our dream daily so that it gets fit in our subconscious mind and slowly and gradually even when we are not thinking about our goal consciously somewhere in the back of our mind a thought process runs to achieve our goal.

Why Self Awareness is so Important

Most of us think self awareness is same as awareness which means being aware of what’s happening around us. But there is a huge difference between the two terms. Awareness is simply means being aware of happenings in our surrounding but Self Awareness means being aware of what’s happening inside us.

Most of the times we are not aware what’s going inside us especially when we are in emotional stage. Self awareness helps us in observing our anger, emotion, happiness, sadness or any other feeling.

Keeping track of our thoughts in regular day to day situation helps us in managing our emotions even in difficult situation. If we are aware what going inside our mind we are in better situation to regulate it. Being able to regulate our mind after observing the feelings is very important for effective communication and in taking important decisions.

Circle of Influence…

There are innumerous matter for serious thought in our life which need our regular attention. Being a human being we want to solve all the problems and issues which we see around us. Is that possible to resolve all the issues around us. Actually not. We can’t solve each and every issue around us.

Mr. Stephen R. Covey has very rightly said in his book 7 Habits of Highly Effective People that all the problems around us can be categorised into two situations. They fall under our:

(i) Circle of influence; and

(ii) Circle of Concern

Troubles which fall under our Circle of Influence are those where we have ascendancy to take action which can solve the problem immediately or later on. For example: if we are not feeling well then taking medicine or visiting to doctor is within our circle of influence and we will take that action.

However, the circumstances which fall under circle of concern are those where our action would not directly influence the outcome. For Example: suppose we are taking medicine as suggested by a doctor but its going to take atleast 5 days to recover. However, if we still worry its not going to take lesser time. So this situation is not under our circle of influence. What best we can do is to take rest and take medicine as referred by the doctor.

As a human being, the best strategy for us should be to concentrate on our circle of influence. Moreover, we should continuously try to increase the area of our circle of influence by bringing more things from circle of concern into our circle of influence. This gives us more area to play and apply our skills.

We are a happier person when most of our worries are those where we can take action to solve them instead of just thinking about the same.

Argument is Void !!

Mr. Dale Carnegie has very well said in his one of the best selling books “How to win friends and influence people” that an “Argument is void” and it’s always better to discuss the things & think from other’s point of view as well while communicating. Let’s find out the difference between Discussion and Argument.

Discussion is something where we just put our thoughts and don’t project it as right or wrong whereas Argument is that when we think our point of view is right and we try to prove the same irrespective of thinking from the other’s point of view.

Discussion vs Argument:

Think from all Angles: In discussion we think from other person’s point of view as well. So we don’t get partially blinded and keep our back eyes open. Whereas in an argument we only think from one point of view and don’t listen to others.

Discussion Generates Healthy Ideas: In discussion we are open enough to listen others and don’t try to prove them wrong. We are more focused on positives and negatives of the topic which facilitates healthy discussion instead of focusing on a person’s view.

Discussion is More Logical: In discussion we only put logical points because we don’t try to prove ourselves right always and appreciate other’s view as well if they are logical.

Argument is More Emotional: An argument may get highly emotional sometimes leading to fight between the parties involved.

Discussion is More purposeful: Purpose of a discussion is to arrive at a logical and fruitful conclusion whereas in argument both the parties try to prove themselves right and ultimately we don’t get any result out of argument making it VOID.